This is Maggie. Britains most “unloved dog”. That’s what Britain paper “The Daily Mail” wrote in 2015. Maggie is a whippet cross who was taken to Serendipity Kennel in Cellarhead, Staffordshire as a puppy because a large family was unable to cope and care for her. For eleven years over 50,000 people who were looking for a dog overlooked Maggie. No one wanted Maggie.
What really breaks my heart at an escalated level is the thousands of children who have been rejected or abandoned by their parents. In some cases, the children are not rejected but have lost their parents to death, prison or to extreme illness. Children need parents. They need care-givers. They need love, affection and affirmation. It is devastating and a detriment to a Childs health to be left alone, ignored and not nurtured on every level… body, soul and spirit.
When we bring attention to loneliness, we must remember our elderly who are in nursing homes or unable to leave their homes. Thousands of our elderly have no one to visit them. They spend hours bound to a bed or to a very small square footage of space. A visit from anyone always puts a smile on their faces.
Loneliness is a real issue. No-one wants to feel like they are alone or do not have anyone they can talk to about ideas, problems or sharing things that excite them. Professional studies have proven that we are wired for social connection. From plants, animals to humans, the results are the same, when they are neglected human interaction… the outcome will be sickness and possible death.
In some cases, the cure for loneliness is relativity easy and low sacrifice. Its a simple 30 to 60 minute conversation. Its a phone call. It’s sharing a meal. Its taking a walk together. In some cases it will require more sacrifice. It’s making a relational commitment to be a friend. It’s spending time mentoring. Adopting a child. Whether a small investment of time or a larger sacrifice…
You can be someones cure for loneliness.
5 Things to Help Fight Against Loneliness
- Invite someone out for coffee, breakfast, lunch or dinner. You may be the one that feels lonely. Don’t let the possible feeling of rejection stop you from inviting someone. The first invite might not work for their schedule or you may have invited the wrong person. Don’t give up. Someone wants to talk with you.
- Take time to call 3 people this week. Spend some time on the phone with them. Offer words of encouragement, scripture verses and a prayer before you end the conversation.
- Find a teen that seems to be fighting loneliness. Get permission from their parents and take them to lunch, play basketball, fishing, go get ice cream. Talk about future goals and plans. Take time to dream with them about their future. Find out what they are passionate about. Encourage them. Breathe life into their future.
- Treasure the moments that people give you. If someone takes out time to talk with you. Notice you. Invite you. Thank them. When you feel lonely, or you have the thought that no-one cares, remind yourself that someone took out time to call you or they sent you a card. Those small moments mean a lot. I believe when we are truly thankful for the small moments that people give us and we sow into other peoples lives, God will allow us to reap a harvest of friendships.
- Remember these Scriptures. Pray and ask the Lord to help you extend His presence in to someones life this week.
- Proverbs 18:24a, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly…”
- Luke 6:31, “Do to others as you would have them do to you.”
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble.”
- John 15:12, “This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you. There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
- Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”